Actually Filip, no, I can’t. I have no recollection of where I originally even found the picture, let alone who drew it. Sorry I couldn’t be of more help (I should of credited the artists initially), but take care.
The closest, fully-explored and exhaustive analysis of self-ESTEEM (not confidence) I’ve come across is the work of Nathaniel Branden, the essence of which I covered in a radio show called The Dynamics of HIGH SELF-ESTEEM
There, I described self-esteem as “your relationship with own process of perception,”: the degree to which you trust and honor what you experience, think and feel, as well as how this rather abstract “relationship” plays out in things like “confidence,” “self-talk,” “self-motivation,” etc. etc.
But I feel you, “self-confidence” is a fairly ambiguous term thrown around thoughtlessly – like what you say when you run out of actual advice because it seems to apply to everything – and I don’t even have a scientific definition myself (and here I am publishing material on this stuff).
Thanks Brian (coolest name I ever heard in my life, by the way). It’s actually going to be the GREEN, after all…with an earthy, light brown back-tone to it. After putting this out, a great super-design expert friend of mine agreed to help a little bit (I guess they like when you take initiative). I was thinking the green from jump too, but thought other’s opinions would be great. THANKS ;)
Yup, yup…the book is FIRE too. You can tell he knows A LOT more then just relationships, and he gives you a simple framework to develop your own personal relationships in life from henceforward.
His book is one of the few that “teach fishing” if you catch my drift…
Let me know what you think…I think I was a little too LONG-WINDED in the beginning, looking back at it now. I’ll be sure to get more “to the point” next time.
Thanks to both of you, and yeah, that picture had me rolling too…originally, I had a pic there of a brother reading, but then stumbled on the meditation image while playing around with some old files and said, “hold up…this got to go in there.”
Originally, I was also going to have a FOURTH fear, something along the lines of “the fear of missing out/being left behind” but it wasn’t coming together as well as I wanted it to, so I scraped that. Stay tuned for more blogging goodness…
Thanks man…the deep part is, USING THIS TECHNIQUE REVOLUTIONIZED EVERYTHING I DO WITH THE BLOG.
For instance, I measure how time and energy I spend working on different aspects of the site, and when I saw that blogging was taken up far too much of my time, I realized that I needed to stop doing it everyday.
Once I saw the metrics, I knew I couldn’t keep it up long term, but there was a big dilemma: how do I “blog without blogging??? How do I keep such great content churning without taking away from the executive and marketing responsibilities???
It took me a LOOOONG time to figure out, but with a little bit of inventiveness I finally had the idea to do all my blogging for the week over the week-end instead of daily. Normally I would draft a post at night and finalize it in the early morning (sneaking away during work hours if needed), but now I just bang those babies out in one session…like an assembly line or something.
This also eliminates transition time: I no longer have to shift between blogging and networking, etc. etc., which is a big drag on efficiency, and I owe it all to the metrics
Thanks Queen. Glad you enjoyed it. The latest post has a great audio lecture recording of mine on time-management AND a free worksheet to follow along, so I think you’ll get a lot out of that one too.
Thanks man, some of the posts have actually changed a lot more then I planned too…it’s like I didn’t even know what I was trying to REALLY say until now. Check out the latest issue for more of what I mean.
Thanks man…I’ve been testing out this new video style for a minute, but this is my first time publishing anything. Hope the title isn’t too misleading, and that people really enjoy the “digital chalkboard” approach.
Thanks Kuku…this piece actually took me a a couple of tries to nail down (did the first draft about 3 weeks ago), so I’m glad it came out strong. The response seems to be good as well. Take care…
Thanks Brother…I like how he focused on MOVING FORWARD, completely, and not dwelling on lost opportunities, because even the feeling of regret is attachment. Even thinking to yourself, “Damn, I messed that one up” is like residual infatuation.
I guess the biggest thing is freeing your heart up for women in your future, as you come out of resolving your own pain and emotional scars.
Thanks man, and nah, not really. You’re right though: a more statistical, research-oriented post would definitely be on point, but I planned on leaving it with these logical points.
Originally, this was partly inspired by something I saw on public television about aging. I completely forgot the name of it or the author who put it together, but they were making those same arguments about always learning and always using your brain as the key to fighting Alzheimer’s and other aging-related challenges.
Yeah, man. Much thanks for the love…I swear, sometimes I’ll think a post is MEGA-deep and powerful, only to find out the response was nowhere near as heavy as I thought it could of been. I’m working on it.
Yeah. I was amazed when I saw the first draft…this has a lot of levels it applies to, as well. Sometimes, even when you’re aware of this kind of thing, it still finds a way to play out at a deeper, more subtle level.
Much thanks to the Queen for looking out like this. She saved me a lot of time and energy.
Thanks Nikki…I guess it wouldn’t be too much of advice unless I could “show and prove” in my own history, so I try to always relate it back.
It actually took me several days to write this…it started with some good raw ideas but took time to develop into something that wouldn’t make me feel subconscious.
Just testing the comments section…I still have to fix the like buttons at the top, but I divided the comments up into a “facebook” section and a “blog only” section.
No doubt. Glad you enjoyed it…I’ve been thinking about making a video for this concept myself, because it’s probably my #1 skill
What I’ve found is that you have to be a little bit of what other people would call “OCD,” and remember that if your “compulsive” about having an orderly environment, most people are “compulsive” about living in clutter and filth.
It’s really something that separates you when you can become more minimalistic in life.
Mental Fatigue, Stress & Attention Deficit: Their Societal Cause & Your Personal Cure...
August 27th, 2012 at 2:29 pmActually Filip, no, I can’t. I have no recollection of where I originally even found the picture, let alone who drew it. Sorry I couldn’t be of more help (I should of credited the artists initially), but take care.
Black Intelligence pt. 9: THE FEAR OF SUCCESS in the African-American Community
August 20th, 2012 at 4:00 pmPeace Knawledge,
Did you try the amazon link here?
How to Develop Deep Level Self-Confidence (Explained in Plain Language)
July 3rd, 2012 at 3:02 pmHey Isabelle, great question…
The closest, fully-explored and exhaustive analysis of self-ESTEEM (not confidence) I’ve come across is the work of Nathaniel Branden, the essence of which I covered in a radio show called The Dynamics of HIGH SELF-ESTEEM
There, I described self-esteem as “your relationship with own process of perception,”: the degree to which you trust and honor what you experience, think and feel, as well as how this rather abstract “relationship” plays out in things like “confidence,” “self-talk,” “self-motivation,” etc. etc.
But I feel you, “self-confidence” is a fairly ambiguous term thrown around thoughtlessly – like what you say when you run out of actual advice because it seems to apply to everything – and I don’t even have a scientific definition myself (and here I am publishing material on this stuff).
The advice here, in other blog posts, the book referenced above, and the mental-conditioning programs I offer through this site is really the extent of what I know.
I’m just not going to lie to you and pull some scientific mumbo-jumbo out my rear end when I simply don’t have one, you know?
Hope this helps…
CAN YOU HELP ME CHOOSE A BOOK COVER???
November 18th, 2011 at 12:08 pmThanks Brian (coolest name I ever heard in my life, by the way). It’s actually going to be the GREEN, after all…with an earthy, light brown back-tone to it. After putting this out, a great super-design expert friend of mine agreed to help a little bit (I guess they like when you take initiative). I was thinking the green from jump too, but thought other’s opinions would be great. THANKS ;)
Romantic Obsession IS NOT Love: An Excerpt from 'The 5 Love Languages' By Dr. Gary Chapman
November 17th, 2011 at 11:46 amYup, yup…the book is FIRE too. You can tell he knows A LOT more then just relationships, and he gives you a simple framework to develop your own personal relationships in life from henceforward.
His book is one of the few that “teach fishing” if you catch my drift…
NEW VIDEO || 5 Time-Management Tips MADE EASY (Just In Case You Forgot)
November 14th, 2011 at 3:33 pmLet me know what you think…I think I was a little too LONG-WINDED in the beginning, looking back at it now. I’ll be sure to get more “to the point” next time.
CAN FEAR BE PRODUCTIVE??? (3 Things Every Driven, Fully-Engaged Person is Literally AFRAID Of...& Why YOU SHOULD BE TOO)
October 25th, 2011 at 10:36 pmThanks to both of you, and yeah, that picture had me rolling too…originally, I had a pic there of a brother reading, but then stumbled on the meditation image while playing around with some old files and said, “hold up…this got to go in there.”
Originally, I was also going to have a FOURTH fear, something along the lines of “the fear of missing out/being left behind” but it wasn’t coming together as well as I wanted it to, so I scraped that. Stay tuned for more blogging goodness…
Take care and thanks again,
+B
Are You Hijacking Your Own Success By BEING ETHICAL???
October 14th, 2011 at 3:51 pmThanks Queen…I just re-read it and learned a couple of things myself. We could go on until 2012 with this one subject alone.
Why Most Self-Help ISN'T Helping (& Why You Need to CONSCIOUSLY Control How You Use Your Brain)
October 9th, 2011 at 4:56 pmThanks Bro. Glad you liked it…we’ll link soon.
Conquer Yourself, Lesson 11: Attaining Peak-Level Performance (How to Push Yourself to YOUR GREATEST)
September 26th, 2011 at 4:35 pmThanks man…the deep part is, USING THIS TECHNIQUE REVOLUTIONIZED EVERYTHING I DO WITH THE BLOG.
For instance, I measure how time and energy I spend working on different aspects of the site, and when I saw that blogging was taken up far too much of my time, I realized that I needed to stop doing it everyday.
Once I saw the metrics, I knew I couldn’t keep it up long term, but there was a big dilemma: how do I “blog without blogging??? How do I keep such great content churning without taking away from the executive and marketing responsibilities???
It took me a LOOOONG time to figure out, but with a little bit of inventiveness I finally had the idea to do all my blogging for the week over the week-end instead of daily. Normally I would draft a post at night and finalize it in the early morning (sneaking away during work hours if needed), but now I just bang those babies out in one session…like an assembly line or something.
This also eliminates transition time: I no longer have to shift between blogging and networking, etc. etc., which is a big drag on efficiency, and I owe it all to the metrics
Peace,
+B
Conquer Yourself, Lesson 8: 9 Keys for Effective Time-Management (Free Podcast Download)
September 19th, 2011 at 2:22 pmGlad you enjoyed it Queen…to be honest, there’s actually THIRTEEN planned installments for the series, so we’re barely half way there.
Taking notes is a great idea, so stay tuned for more insights tomorrow…
Conquer Yourself, Lesson 2: The Hidden Key to OVERCOMING PROCRASTINATION Once & For All...
September 19th, 2011 at 1:09 pmThanks Queen. Glad you enjoyed it. The latest post has a great audio lecture recording of mine on time-management AND a free worksheet to follow along, so I think you’ll get a lot out of that one too.
CONQUER YOURSELF: How to Enhance Your Productivity, Improve Your Time-Management, Attain Self-Discipline & More
September 17th, 2011 at 1:13 pmThanks man, some of the posts have actually changed a lot more then I planned too…it’s like I didn’t even know what I was trying to REALLY say until now. Check out the latest issue for more of what I mean.
The Difference Between 'Getting' Motivated and STAYING THERE (3 Keys for Long-Term Motivation)
September 2nd, 2011 at 4:06 pmThanks Queen…so glad you got a lot out of it. Keep in touch and be sure to keep me updated, because that’s a fantastic investment you made…take care
NEW VIDEO: How to NOT Notice You're in an Earthquake (A Lesson in Concentration, pt.3)
August 25th, 2011 at 12:50 pmThanks man…I’ve been testing out this new video style for a minute, but this is my first time publishing anything. Hope the title isn’t too misleading, and that people really enjoy the “digital chalkboard” approach.
3 Simple Ways to Make Your Mind INFINITELY More Creative, IMMEDIATELY
August 23rd, 2011 at 6:38 pmThanks Kuku…this piece actually took me a a couple of tries to nail down (did the first draft about 3 weeks ago), so I’m glad it came out strong. The response seems to be good as well. Take care…
CHOOSE A WOMAN WHO CHOOSES YOU: Relationship & Dating Advice for Men
August 17th, 2011 at 7:31 pmThanks Brother…I like how he focused on MOVING FORWARD, completely, and not dwelling on lost opportunities, because even the feeling of regret is attachment. Even thinking to yourself, “Damn, I messed that one up” is like residual infatuation.
I guess the biggest thing is freeing your heart up for women in your future, as you come out of resolving your own pain and emotional scars.
How Self-Development KEEPS YOU YOUNG...
August 11th, 2011 at 5:02 pmThanks man, and nah, not really. You’re right though: a more statistical, research-oriented post would definitely be on point, but I planned on leaving it with these logical points.
Originally, this was partly inspired by something I saw on public television about aging. I completely forgot the name of it or the author who put it together, but they were making those same arguments about always learning and always using your brain as the key to fighting Alzheimer’s and other aging-related challenges.
Thanks bro
BE A MAN OF YOUR OWN MAKING: Self-Direction, Self-Definition & Self-Empowerment in an AGE of Complacency, Mediocrity & Fear
August 5th, 2011 at 7:57 pmYeah, man. Much thanks for the love…I swear, sometimes I’ll think a post is MEGA-deep and powerful, only to find out the response was nowhere near as heavy as I thought it could of been. I’m working on it.
BEAUTY BEGETS LOVE: Relationship Advice from Guest Blogger Genially Green Earth
August 5th, 2011 at 7:54 pmYeah. I was amazed when I saw the first draft…this has a lot of levels it applies to, as well. Sometimes, even when you’re aware of this kind of thing, it still finds a way to play out at a deeper, more subtle level.
Much thanks to the Queen for looking out like this. She saved me a lot of time and energy.
The 2 Types of Self-Development ADDICTION (& How to Overcome Them)
July 26th, 2011 at 3:12 pmThanks Nikki…I guess it wouldn’t be too much of advice unless I could “show and prove” in my own history, so I try to always relate it back.
It actually took me several days to write this…it started with some good raw ideas but took time to develop into something that wouldn’t make me feel subconscious.
Thanks again…
+B
PACE YOURSELF: A New Video On Being Realistic, Patient & Compassionate As You Grow to Be Stronger, Wiser & More Productive...
July 26th, 2011 at 3:11 pmThanks man…glad you got something from it. I’ll be talking more about realistic self-discipline in the near future, so stay tuned.
More Productivity Tips for Accomplishing More Each Day....
July 12th, 2011 at 3:08 pmJust testing the comments section…I still have to fix the like buttons at the top, but I divided the comments up into a “facebook” section and a “blog only” section.
GET ORGANIZED: How to Create a Clutter-Free Environment
January 15th, 2011 at 9:15 amNo doubt. Glad you enjoyed it…I’ve been thinking about making a video for this concept myself, because it’s probably my #1 skill
What I’ve found is that you have to be a little bit of what other people would call “OCD,” and remember that if your “compulsive” about having an orderly environment, most people are “compulsive” about living in clutter and filth.
It’s really something that separates you when you can become more minimalistic in life.
Stay tuned for the new blog layout too.
Peace,
Bryan's "Recommended Scroll" of the Year: EMPIRE OF ILLUSION by Chris Hedges
January 12th, 2011 at 12:27 pmYeah, y’know the deal. That cat is poetic and profound…