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A Simple, Quick & Easy Tip for INSTANTLY Eliminating Fear…

5 August 2011 No Comment

man afraid biting his knuckles

One of the keys I use to help me INSTANTLY overcome fear is to replace the word “fear” with cowardice.



Now that I reframe most of my irrational fears – hesitation, intimidation, procrastination, etc – as cowardice (and I’ve hit a point where I can admit to myself that “for most of my life, I’ve been a coward.”), I’m much more motivated to move away from that type of behavior.




Cowardice is a Much More Powerful Word…

Words are a lot like magic spells in that the specific language we use DRASTICALLY molds our perception of different behaviors, choices, situations, and relationships.






The word “fear” is light, simple and cliche…everybody has a little bit of fear, so that’s a normal (and therefore, in a sense, acceptable) trait.



However, the word “cowardice” is almost like a direct, personal attack…it’s a pathetic state of being that NOBODY wants to be associated with.



People will do all types of crazy “ish” in order to NOT be considered a coward – race cars down residential streets, take all types of dangerous drugs and gamble away their family’s savings. So if you identify the “fears” that are holding you back as an outgrowth of what’s essentially cowardice, you’re much more likely to change your behavior ON THE SPOT.



…it’s what psychologists call “away-from motivation,” (because you want to move “away from” that type of identification). Just train yourself to see fear as having its root in a cowardly aspect of your nature (that you’re gradually learning to remove).




Try Asking Yourself:

asian woman thinking in supermarketThe next time you’re afraid to do something out of irrational fear, try asking yourself “Am I a coward, or a grown man/grown woman? Does a grown man/woman do this, or do that???”



You can also insert your name and get specific, like “____, would a real man/woman allow themselves to be intimidated by this blank page/cute stranger at the club/ email to a hiring manager?”



Since the answer’s obviously no, you’ll automatically go with the decision that reinforces the type of person you want to be. It’ll help build your self-image and self-esteem.



So replace the word “fear” with cowardice. Re-orient your thinking to see all of your irrational fears as indicative of a cowardly nature that you’re gradually moving AWAY FROM in order to attain a courageous nature that you’re gradually moving TOWARDS.






Really, even though I’m talking about language and words, what I’m really saying here is MAKE A DECISION. Make a decision about the type of person you want to become and hold yourself accountable for it in actual situations…



For another great resource on eliminating fear, click here…



Peace,
+B



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