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An Easy, Quick 4-Step Exercise for Greater Self-Confidence

7 July 2011 No Comment

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“Without confidence, you’ve lost in the race of life…
with confidence, you’ve won even before you started.”

~ Marcus Mosiah Garvey

I keep quoting this brother, and although I hate to repeat myself, sometimes you need to in order to make sure a point sticks.

But you already know this, don’t you? You already know you need confidence and self-esteem in order to:

>> build healthy, strong relationships,
>> succeed at personal goals (like losing weight, starting a blog or whatever),
>> maintain your sense of self through the ups and downs of life (financial challenges or other stresses).
>> overcome (and AVOID) terrible things like depression and anxiety

…and much more, right?

Since you already do, let’s go ahead and delve right into the science. Here’s 4 quick and easy ways to build (and restore) your sense of self-confidence:

Tip 1: Make Distinctions

Think about (and if you like, write down) what confidence means to you. What do confident people do that unconfident people do not? What would you do differently if you were confident?

For instance, maybe you would find it easier to speak up for yourself, show your emotions, meet new people or (in the case of a male) approach women.

Tip 2: Define Beliefs

Write down three beliefs you hold about yourself which could be limiting your confidence.

Now, think of three beliefs you would rather have…beliefs that would empower you and bring you confidence. Cross out the limiting beliefs and write these empowering ones down in their place.

What would you have to do for these new beliefs to come true?

Project Yourself Mentally

Make yourself very comfortable (either sitting or lying down), close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and relax.

Allow yourself to imagine: what would it be like to be perfectly confident? What difference would it make in my life?

Let your mind drift for a few minutes, then open your eyes and write down everything that comes to mind. Keep this list: you have it in your power to experience all this eventually. Remember that whatever your mind can conceive and you can realize .

Role Play

…and by this I don’t mean the freaky kind, so get your mind out the gutter.

Simply commit yourself to behaving more confidently AS OF NOW, even if it feels like an act. Do what actors, musicians, politicians, celebrities and many others do all over the world – pretend like you’re confident even if you’re not.

For instance, calm your breath, stand upright, look people in the eye and speak with a clear, unwavering tone…you’ll feel more confident immediately.

So that’s it for now. If you’re really feeling this, and know it’s something you need to work on in-depth, check out my classic Blog Talk Radio episode, The Dynamics of HIGH SELF-ESTEEM


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