“I was watching pre-schoolers being interviewed on television about events in the news one day, and when one child was asked, ‘Why do you think people go to war?’ he replied: ‘Because they don’t use their words…’

Third, one who is “in love” is not genuinely interested in fostering the personal growth of the other person: our main purpose is *to terminate our own loneliness* and perhaps ensure that termination through marriage.

Again, being “in love” DOES NOT focus on our own development OR on the development of the other person. Instead, it gives us the (false) sense that we’ve “arrived” and need no further development at all.

Shyness, self-consciousness, embarrassment, ALL GONE FOR GOOD…without any drugs or therapy.

If you’ve been trying all the programs, reading all the books and getting all the newsletters but still can’t get YOURSELF to start taking all the actions, first know that you are not alone.

“If you find yourself having trouble with any affirmation-related practice, make sure none of the following apply…here’s the top 3 most common mistakes I find people making ALL THE TIME“

Interestingly, many “life coaches” and “spiritual gurus” (including religious leaders of a traditional sort) have a slave-like, pathological relationship with their followers, and me narrowing my focus is an attempt to avoid that dynamic.

“…becoming one with death in one’s thoughts, even in life, was the highest attainment of purity and focus. He felt that a resolution to die gives rise to a higher state of life, infused with beauty and grace beyond the reach of those concerned with self-preservation.”

The main point here is that (1.) everybody wants to feel like a winner and (2.) everybody wants to feel like they’re doing good in the world, even if these feelings have to come vicariously through another entity.

For a good portion of my life, I was really no different then someone who wanted a fancy car or a brand-new watch to feel important, it’s just that I disguised it under other, more constructive terms. Don’t let that be you…

Take a good look at the Yin & Yang symbol and you’ll notice that even in the side that’s completely dark, there’s a small little speck of light, and in the side that’s completely light, there’s a small little speck of dark…and you can look at your personal growth and success in a similar way: