Great Goals are Often Based on SELFISHNESS. Here’s What I Mean:
“Being a total helper without wanting anything in return is inhuman.
It’s a product of toxic shame by trying to be more than human…”
~ John Bradshaw
NOTE: The Conquer Yourself Podcast Series – the audios I usually post Thursdays – is, for the time being at least, temporarily adjourned; for no other reason then the fact that I’m working and studying way too much to post regularly, so something’s got to give. Thanks for understanding…
I wrote my book, How to Conquer Yourself primarily for selfish reasons. Namely…
A >> As a challenge to simply prove to myself that I could do it.
B >> As healing. A lot of people don’t know this, but I had just ended a relationship with someone I loved, and needed a meaningful project to redirect my passions and emotional energy towards, and most importanly
C >> As a symbolic stand, as a way of saying to the world, “This is who I am, and you can’t change me.” and thus, as a way of thus living my life on my terms.
So I wrote the book for deeply personal, self-centered reasons. My suggestion here is that if you want to stay motivated to write a book, or any major creative goal along such lines, you’ll need some intensely self-centered reasons of your own.
You need to be constructively selfish in order to conquer yourself, and you have to conquer yourself because that’s all you have….AND because if you don’t, somebody else will.
You have to conquer yourself because your “self” is a form of psychological real estate which, once mortgaged and siphoned off, can never be reclaimed.
The connection you have to your own artistic abilities, independent judgment and self-generated ambition is the greatest relationship a man can possibly have. Remember, as I say in Chapter 4, “Be the Sun, not the planet…this doesn’t mean to have an ‘egotistical,’ narcissistic attitude or to think of yourself as the center of the world, but to ensure that the ‘solar system’ of your life reflects and honors your own sense of personal code, ensues upon your own personal terms and best interests.”
Discover more great insights, techniques, strategies and wisdom for self-mastery and artistic success in my new book, How to Conquer Yourself: Discipline & Willpower for the Conscious, Creative Thinker, available on on Amazon here. (For autographed and personally-dedicated copies, delivered much faster, click here)