PUT YOURSELF FIRST, Because It’s YOUR Life (Practical Advice for Attaining Personal Power)
Today’s technique is to STOP FIREFIGHTING, and by that I mean stop allowing your energy to be dictated to the random problems and dramas other people throw your way.
Former Egyptian President Hosni Mubarak once said:
“I cannot and will not accept to be dictated orders from the outside, no matter what the source is and no matter what the excuses or justifications are….”
Truth be told, they did nab his behind out of there about 2 days after he said this (and of course I’m not trying to suggest anything political to you), but the point still stands.
There’s something in that quote that represents an attitude, a certain approach to the world where a man PRIORITIZES what his actions and goals or going to be for himself…
Look for the Jewels in EVERYTHING
Mubarak also once said, “I will not separate from the soil until I’m buried underneath it…”
I look for self-development ideas and motivation in EVERYTHING now (from political events to random cartoons) and to me, here the “soil” metaphorical represents your principles: the goals, values, dreams and ambitions you’re grounded in and your life is about.
There’s certain things in your life that only YOU can make happen, so you shouldn’t let anyone or anything separate you from that until you’re buried underneath it (as in “it’s settled and accomplished”).
Don’t let anyone prevent you from getting satisfaction out of your own life, because – as far as we can prove – you only get one shot.
Don’t let anyone dictate to you what’s possible, what makes
sense or what direction you should be headed towards.
And on a practical, day to day level, don’t let other people randomly interrupt you from tasks that’ll take you where you want to go. Set the agenda for yourself PROACTIVELY, and fit other people around that.
Establish a Healthy, Personal Boundary
There’s a clear line line between your responsibilities (like a child or a utility bill) and somebody else’s (like proofreading their complaint letters to some soccer league president), so maintain and honor that distinction.
In fact, you’re goals ARE your responsibilities, we’re just so used to letting other people’s drama foreshadow over them that we don’t pay attention anymore.
One of the techniques I mentioned in an audio lesson a while back was to have a friend bother you like a bill collector about your progress until you actually succeed (or establish the habit).
There should also be some consequence in there, something funny enough to not take seriously but annoying enough to make you want to actually avoid it, like cleaning the other person’s bathroom…
I could go on about stuff like this for days, so for more, just check out the blog post itself, called HOW TO BRING YOUR GOALS TO LIFE: The 4 Dimensions of Focused Success.
But again, today’s main idea is to STOP FIREFIGHTING. Prioritize and take care of your responsibilities first, and establish a goal setting routine that forces other people to respect (and support) your success.