Subtle Secrets: The Valuable, Hidden Character Traits I USED TO BE ASHAMED OF…
We don’t always offer up the truth about ourselves, do we? The Fugees were on-point when they said, “everybody wears the mask,” because almost ALL of us walk around in this society scared to reveal a thing, don’t we???
It’s almost like Eyes Wide Shut except without all the sex…or WITH all the sex, but without all the money and prestige, and what’s interesting is that the things we’re so hesitant to reveal about ourselves are often the same things that give us our unique power.
Personally speaking, in many cases, the key character traits that made me who I am today are things I used to be ashamed of and confused about when I was younger. Take a second to see what I mean and let me know what you think in the comments section afterwards…
(1) Being a LISTENER
When I was younger, I was ashamed of the fact that I didn’t have much to contribute to group discussions. I was the quiet one, and thought that since everybody else was vocal, outspoken and loud, that I should be that way too.
Little did I know that my mind was more concerned with assimilating and incorporating *new* ideas than with verbalizing the ones I already had, and that being a good listener would lead to me becoming GREAT at structuring and sharing ideas.
Ironically, if you let go of the need to always be the “deep” one, you become the deep one instead. Listening is a hidden character trait that leads to compassion, influence, respect, believability and more…
(2) Being a LEARNER
Similarly, when I was younger, I was ashamed of the fact that I liked reading. I hid my books from other people’s sight, and I thought it was weird that I understood the symbolism in English class when other kids didn’t.
Little did I know that if you limit yourself to the ideas you have direct access to (other kids, parents, people in your neighborhood), you limit yourself to the reality that they exist in, and that being a reader would lead to me constantly aspiring for something greater for myself.
Ironically, some of the things you do while sitting still (reading, meditation, etc.) end up taking you further then the most extroverted activities ever can. Reading is a hidden character trait that leads to eloquence, motivation, creativity and emotional strength.
(3) Being a SEEKER
And lastly, when I was younger, I was ashamed of the fact that I was always looking for meaning. I thought something was wrong with me because I didn’t get the same satisfaction and pleasure out of what seemed to make everyone else content.
Little did I know that my search for depth was the seed of what would ultimately become my life purpose, and that being a seeker would lead to me creating the blog you’re enjoying right now.
Ironically, when we spend a long time looking for something and never find it, we develop a way to create it ourselves. Seeking is a hidden character trait that leads to vision, depth, self-knowledge and contentment in life.
I guess the biggest irony of all is that the things I used to think made me weird and made my life difficult – the things I used to feel so frustrated and conflicted about – are the same things that make me a unique and valuable person.
Another good thing about these “subtle secrets” is that if you’re still reading this, it was probably just one big affirmation for you, but let me know in the comments section now: what are you’re “subtle secrets”? What character traits have you historically despised about yourself that’ve led you to becoming the stronger, more developed you you are now???