Should You Really Be THAT Persistent??? (Reader Q&A Session)
Here’s an old Q&A from the archives that I think will help out a lot. It’s one of the best questions I’ve ever been asked, actually.
From the Reader Mailbag:
“…perhaps you could elaborate on that statement about never giving up. While there’s a lot to be said about tenacity of spirit and never giving up on your dreams, there’s a fine line there too…
Remember that saying ‘Don’t flog a dead horse?’ I think sometimes it’s necessary to ‘give up’ on something or someone as a continual investment of your valuable resources or you’ll end up draining yourself dry.
Take for example….
>> the gambling addict who just HAS to put that next dollar into the slot machine.
>> trying to influence a heroin addict to quit and going about all manner of effort to that end only to have the person continue using, or
>> being deeply and passionately in love with someone who doesn’t feel the same way (‘unrequited love.’)
At some point you can’t continue trying to pound a square peg into a round hole. Anyway….food for thought. Perhaps you’d like to expound upon this subject and provide some of your personal insight/experience/wisdom. I’d love to hear what you have to say on this subject. Thanks Bryan.”
Identify with the REASON you have a particular goal (usually for an emotional state or personal conviction) and focus on that when a particular plan isn’t working.
Where the goal is to start a company, THE PURPOSE may be financial wellbeing, and so one should not be attached to an inefficient business model. Where the goal is to have a relationship, THE PURPOSE may be to give and receive love, and so one should not be attached to an incompatible person.
I quit drumming because when I was having some trouble with my music career, I zoomed out, looked at the forest and realized that my purpose was to express my individuality, not ‘to be a drummer’ per se.
Now, with the website, I’m creating more audio-visual content instead of writing all the time because I realized my purpose is to promote intelligence, self-growth and maturity, not ‘to be a writer’ per se (and multimedia is more effective at that).
Identify with your purpose, but be flexible in your approach. I’ll release another self-discipline video soon that’ll go further in-depth.